are we having enough sex
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So, how much sex should we be having?

It’s everywhere. Our favourite tv shows, magazines, social media apps, radio adverts, news articles…we can’t seem to escape sex. With the rise of dating apps like Tinder and Bumble. Meeting people to date or hook-up with couldn’t be easier for millennials. Yet, a survey explains that men under thirty are having less intercourse than ever before. But exactly how much time should we be spending in the bedroom?

As 23% of Americans reveal they haven’t had sex in the last year, with the majority being males, it seems there is a decline in sexual activity. The number has tripled since 2008 by 28%. Whilst women have only increased by a measly 8%.

The survey revealed only 18% of American women claimed they haven’t had sex in the past year. As female pleasure is becoming less of a taboo in society, it seems women are having more casual sex. One survey found a 13% increase of women who are open to the idea of a ‘no-strings-attached’ sexual relationship. Could it be that women are finally so free to enjoy sex, they’ve taken the lead over men? According to the Wall Street Journal, it’s technology that’s getting in the way of our sex lives. 

The ever-so subtle ‘Netflix and Chill’ was once a tactical move to get someone into bed. Now, it’s what it says on the tin. 1 in 4 of 18 to 38-year-olds has turned down sex to watch TV. Technology has taken over our lives with endless launches of smartphones, hours of video game content to play and streaming TV has never been easier. Access to porn has also caused an issue with men’s sex lives. BBC Three revealed 74% of men had watch pornography in the last month. With more ways to wind down and relax, the pleasure of sex may not be as enticing as it once was.

However, the Wall Street Journal continues to explain how streaming is causing fertility rates to drop. Nevermind the fact that more women are choosing to pursue a career than rush to have a 2019. With today’s millennials being impacted by a financial decline as they will earn 13% less than those born in the 1970s. Instead, people are still living with their parents and choosing not to settle down until their 30s. So, if sex is strictly for procreation, why else should we engage in coitus? 

Sex offers a range of health benefits. A study claims that getting down and dirty just once a week is enough to induce them. It can increase our wellbeing by improving mental health, relationship quality and how we deal with emotions. Whilst having sex more than once a week doesn’t seem to improve your health, anything less than weekly does. Yet, people are blissfully happy without the pressure of having sex. This article details the poor sex lives of Australian women during long-term relationships. These women felt as though they were unable to freely enjoy sex. They claimed that it felt like a chore or their partners simply didn’t want to do the deed. But should we continue to go to bed with people who make us feel this way because society says so? 

Every couple is different. We are told that relationships should follow certain guidelines that are conducted from rom-coms and romance novels. Relationships are quickly broken by high expectations that cause doubt. By comparing our sex lives to other couples is a sure way to feel bad about yourself and your relationship. Take the time to figure out what works best for you. Whether you’re in a couple or if you’re single, understanding your needs is a step in the right direction. In 2019, how much sex we have shouldn’t depend on trying to please others or because some magazine demands it. We should be free to enjoy sex whenever we want – look how far we’ve cum already. 


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